In my textbook this semester it talks about having the right approach to marriage and the lists we all make to find Mr. or Ms. Right. In chapter 1, the author quotes Elder Bednar who said,
How true that is. At this time in your lives you should be working to become the person you want to be and trying to acquire those traits you are looking for in a spouse. Focus on what you can do for yourself before you start looking for someone else."The "list" is not for evaluating someone else--the list is for you and what you need to become. And so if there are three primary characteristics that [you] hope to find in an eternal companion, then those are the three things [you] ought to be working to become. then [you] will be attractive to someone who has those things...You are not on a shopping spree looking for the greatest value with a series of characteristics. You become what you hope your spouse will be and you'll have a greater likelihood of finding that person."
When it does come time to start looking for "the one", remember that you are looking for an Eternal Companion, not a soul mate. Again from the text, President Kimball said,
"Soul mates are fiction and illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price."Make sure you are doing what you can to be the right person, then it will be easier to find the right person.
Never forget that your dad and I love you!
Carroll, J.S. (2012) Young adulthood and pathways to eternal marriage. In Hawkins, A. J., Dollahite, D. C. & Draper, T. W. (eds.), Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives (pp. 3 - 15). Provo, UT: BYU Studies
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